

If you’re too dense or sensitive to see when someone is joking, or if you just don’t appreciate misha’s form of humour, why not ignoring him instead of spreading your hate?
no one is hating on him at all with this post. sure, maybe people who dislike him contributed, but thats irrelevant. The point of that site is to educate people and maybe even the celebs themselves on how something that seems innocent can actually be very hurtful and offensive to others. It is not about being sensitive, it is about being aware that the world is changing and we need to think about what we say before we say it, now more than ever before.
I really like Misha Collins, I don’t believe he is homophobic or transphobic or what any of this implies, you know? i think he masks things with humor and doesn’t realize that he is disappointing his LGBTQ fans with his remarks. I acknowledge that these things have happened and i hope its something he can work on. I know he never means to hurt anyone but sometimes you need to sacrifice what sounds funny in your head for the sake of the people around you. Of course it hurts to see your favorite actors being linked to awful things, but we all need to wake up. Even really good people do bad things. It’s hard not to offend someone when you have an event that caters to so many people from all over the world, but you can still try. I don’t think this is about people being sensitive or butthurt at all. His innocent comments are making fun of who people are, huge parts of them.
try to put it into a way where you yourself would be hurt by a comment he made. If he made a fat comment that was negative or condescending, for example, i would be really upset about it.
A lot of the time its that they’re just like us. They weren’t exposed or they aren’t used to it or havent thought about it, or they don’t realize. The thing you need to know about this site is YOU DO NOT HAVE TO HATE THEM WHEN YOU SEE THEM ON THIS SITE. You can share it with them write letters or emails telling them how you feel or why its wrong or why they shouldn’t do this in the future. It’s up to them to make the change but as a fan you can choose to tell them why it upset you.So no, this is not bullying of misha, or anyone else. It’s making people aware that the people you put on a pedestal are not perfect, they do things that are wrong, they do cultural appropriating and racist things, and while we cant make them stop, we can tell them how it hurts us, as fans.
I find it painful to go through this site. For example, I love Amy Poehler. I think she is funny and delightful. But she does make mistakes, and when you see photoshoot of her in indian attire, its really disappointing. But i don’t hate her for it, i didn’t lose respect for her, and you don’t have to. We all start somewhere, its just harder in the limelight.
please don’t pass off their flaws and -phobic or -ism/-ist behaviors because if you do that you are silencing a lot of people. Acknowledge what they’ve done, consider why it is wrong, learn from it, and be an ally to the people who have to be hurt from something that seems so innocent but isnt at all.
We usually don’t reblog comments made on reblogs, but I think this is a very good explanation of what this blog is about. We’ve said it several times ourselves, but I think boydoicry articulated the point very well so maybe now some of you will understand better.
-Ry


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before I submit anything, I just want to ask a question about submits so I don’t do this wrong. I know some of this wasn’t exactly “listed” on the recent submit post, but you can see them as suggestions for submit-box uses:
is it ok to use this to ADD to posts, like “oh, and [person] also said XYZ offensive thing that really hurt me and other people in my marginalized group, so, if I brought your attention to it, could you add that to the post about [person]”?
also, does it still count if the person said offensive things specifically about a fictional character? because I think it really shows the values they have internalized, + these fictional people’s oppression (sexist quotes about them, racist quotes about them, trans* phobic quotes about them, ect ect) do not exist in a vacuum, and people like these exist in real life, you know what I mean?
If a post is completed, you can still submit receipts to us. We’re constantly updating the posts because even though there is 6 of us, we’re not likely to catch every problematic thing on the first try and many of these people continue to do problematic things that need to be added to the list.
Yes, saying problematic things about fictional characters still count because they, like you said, do not exist in a vacuum. If an individual makes a queerphobic, trans*phobic, misogynistic, racist, fatphobic, ableist, etc comment about a fictional character that contributes to the institutionalized oppression of these people in real life.
-Ry
Acceptable reasons to use the submit/fanmail
Unacceptable reasons to use the submit/fanmail
Got it? Good.
-Ry
So I guess we have to say this a third time since people don’t seem to be getting the message: THE SUBMIT/FAN MAIL IS NOTTO BE USED AS THE ASK BOX. We aren’t answering questions for the time being nor are we qualified to answer them. This is a record keeping blog and we have posted links to blogs that can properly answer your questions k. And stop with trying to excuse their problematic actions. There is no excuse for racist or sexist behavior. -L
Haha, I’m curious as to what’ll appear on Misha Collins’ part. Most especially on Tom Hiddleston’s. May I ask when you plan to put out their’s, or is there really no specific plan as to it yet? Thanks!
Thus far we only have one thing on Hiddleston and nothing on Collins, so I don’t know when a post on them will be made. If anyone has receipts they’d like to send us, that would certainly help the process along.
-Ry

It’s great that you’re no longer using ‘native’ as a noun. Is there a reason you don’t acknowledge your own racist language? And instead just edit to erase it?
I just edited because I wasn’t the one who originally wrote that particular post. After I corrected the post I deleted the message out of habit. I’m sorry for that, I should have acknowledged the mistake publicly.
Furthermore, even though I didn’t write the post I should have caught the problem myself. I understand that the phrasing was problematic and I’m sorry to those we’ve offended or hurt :(
I’ll be careful not to let this happen again,
-Ry