Your Fave Is Problematic

• on pink slime “Yes, LFTB because our beef now has so many hormones it’s a member of the transgendered community.” (“So I just want to get out in front of this and say that I, Stephen Colbert, apologize to any of my transgender bovine viewers that may have been offended.”)
• “That’s why, fellas, always look for the adams apple! That’s a pro tip. Then, look for the adam’s penis”
• “Nation, President Elect, Obama is meeting every day with his transition team, or in beltway lingo, ‘tr***ies’.”
• “But these days, chewing gum is as supple and flamboyant as a Saigon Ladyboy.”
• “Oh, and the next time you’re waltzing with Matilda, you might wanna check out her adam’s apple, ‘cause she’s a dude!”
• “I’m not talking tasteful private ceremonies, I’m talking parades with floats, throbbing disco music, and sh*m**es tying the knot on preschool playgrounds!”
• “Now, I already an advance copy of the Deathly Hallows and Spoiler alert: Hermione’s a dude…”
• “If you ask me, we can’t trust any of these tr***ies.”
• “You see, I didn’t come here to criticize anyone. I came here to praise one man, one Her-man. Important note: a her-man is not the same as a sh*m**e.”
• “Gee, I wonder how a man called “Hilary” became so obsessed with names… …but, what would this limey sh*m**e have us call the war on terror instead?”
• “I believe that “the Man” is keeping the California republicans down. And, being from California, “the Man” is probably a tr***y.”
• “So, was this just a simple case of a panda that was a female and all along was misidentified due to the breed’s ambiguous sexual characteristics, or is the simpler answer that we’ve got a tr***y panda? Now, I never thought I’d give advice to bears, but here you go. Chinese pandas, here’s how you can tell the difference: if you show up to your breeding pen and your lady’s got a an adam’s apple and big paws, get the hell out of there!”
• “Left to their own devices, these brave young souls could fall prey to some very dangerous characters…” cuts to clips of Sex and the City “…by which I mean tr***ies.”
• “Now, we’ve all been fooled by these tr***y reptiles before…You’re out in the desert with a few friends having a few drinks. You see a lizard sunning itself on a rock. You go over to strike up a conversation. The lizards plays it cool, doesn’t respond. So you drink more to fill the awkward pauses. Next thing you know, you’re back at her place and suddenly you realize what you’re caressing isn’t a cloaca, it’s an enlarged femoral pore! And you just get the hell out of there! Or so I have read.”
• “C’mon democratic party. Play along! If your party does not implode, we’ll have to go with our backup scandal. Ed Rendell is a tr***y!” (screen shows photoshopped image of Ed Rendell) “Hello! I thought we were going to put up a picture of Ed Rendell, not this lovely lady right here.”
• “To get this protection these fair-weather-females and fence-sitting-fellas will have to identify themselves. They will no longer shock and confuse young reporters on assignment in a new town who happen to appreciate ladies with big hands.”
• “Oh, you mean the place of Queens…I thought maybe you were gonna reveal something! that perhaps we had a sh*m**e on our hands, here.”
• This tweet

• This facebook post

• “But, here’s my biggest problem: this race was for female leatherback turtles. What kind of girl’s name is Billy? Ok. Know what I think, folks? Billy is a dude! A turtle tr***y! You can tell by the size of the flippers. And the adam’s apple. Trust me, I’ve been burned too many times. Evidently, I am not alone. They are a menace! Here’s my theory. While Stephanie and all of the other real gals were actually laying eggs on the beach in their nests, Billy fooled the judges by popping ping-ping balls out of his behind. And now he wants a trophy! Well, your little crying game is up, William! No no no, I demand that race officials verify the sex of this turtle, by checking the concavity of its plastron! Oh yeah, I’ve done my research. I do the same thing to all of my dates. And if that plastron is not concave, I am out of there.”
• Colbert: Is there a difference between male-bodied and male, or female-bodied and female?
  Ketchup: Not all people with female bodies identify as women.
  Colbert: So, if I meet somebody down there who says they’re a woman—
  Ketchup: mmmhmm
  Colbert: —I could be in for a rude surprise? Because they may not be female-bodied?

• Colbert: Like What? What? What kind of jobs?
• Cartwright: Like transient farm working jobs.
  Colbert: I don’t care what sex they are, as long as the pick my vegetables.

• About Jensen Ackles teenage photos “It’s rumored he was once a girl. These are the pre-op photos. Jensanna Ackles.”
• “If fandom were a kingdom I would be the queen. Because in chess, the queen is the most powerful piece and because there are several photos of me circulating in drag.”
• Referred to a scene as “Gay” because he felt it was unmanly. 
• Made rape jokes.
• Completely glossed over queer fans when talking about Destiel, ignores queerbaiting. (Apologized for the use of “lip service”, but in the same tweet said “glad to know people were traumatized.”) (his explanation on his queerbaiting and Destiel)
• Referred to Jensen and Jared’s characters as “mentally challenged”

• Participated in a performance with Boom, who was wearing blackface

Henry

• Thought that his fellow members were gay and that Kim Heechul was transgender, which worried him.

Leeteuk

• “I really dislike fat girls. I don’t think they take care of their bodies well.”
• Leeteuk responded with, “I guess we’ll know more when the KBS 2 drama ‘Dream High‘ ends.” Then he suddenly exclaimed, “Suzy needs to lose weight first.”

Shindong

• “If someone had to lose weight, I would tell that person to lose weight. Lose some weight, why can’t you take care of yourself. When I say this, the person might think, ‘Look who’s talking,’ but I would reply, ‘I’m a boy and you’re a girl.” (sort of apologized via Twitter)
• Used blackface to imitate Oprah

Siwon

• “While I respect all genders, I do not wish to acknowledge homosexuals as I have been taught that God created Man and Woman with specific characteristics and duties.”

Yesung

• “I think obese people are lazy.”
• Used blackface to dress as Nick Fury

before I submit anything, I just want to ask a question about submits so I don’t do this wrong. I know some of this wasn’t exactly “listed” on the recent submit post, but you can see them as suggestions for submit-box uses:

is it ok to use this to ADD to posts, like “oh, and [person] also said XYZ offensive thing that really hurt me and other people in my marginalized group, so, if I brought your attention to it, could you add that to the post about [person]”?

also, does it still count if the person said offensive things specifically about a fictional character? because I think it really shows the values they have internalized, + these fictional people’s oppression (sexist quotes about them, racist quotes about them, trans* phobic quotes about them, ect ect) do not exist in a vacuum, and people like these exist in real life, you know what I mean?

If a post is completed, you can still submit receipts to us. We’re constantly updating the posts because even though there is 6 of us, we’re not likely to catch every problematic thing on the first try and many of these people continue to do problematic things that need to be added to the list. 

Yes, saying problematic things about fictional characters still count because they, like you said, do not exist in a vacuum. If an individual makes a queerphobic, trans*phobic, misogynistic, racist, fatphobic, ableist, etc comment about a fictional character that contributes to the institutionalized oppression of these people in real life. 

-Ry

Acceptable reasons to use the submit/fanmail

• Request a celebrity that hasn’t already been requested and isn’t currently featured here
• Link receipts for a celebrity, whether a post has already been made for them or not
• Make corrections (ex. telling us we forgot to censor a slur, spelling errors, etc) - which is not to be confused with disagreeing with us
• Telling us a celebrity has apologized so we can add it to the post

Unacceptable reasons to use the submit/fanmail 

• Anything else

Got it? Good.

-Ry

So I guess we have to say this a third time since people don’t seem to be getting the message: THE SUBMIT/FAN MAIL IS NOTTO BE USED AS THE ASK BOX. We aren’t answering questions for the time being nor are we qualified to answer them. This is a record keeping blog and we have posted links to blogs that can properly answer your questions k. And stop with trying to excuse their problematic actions. There is no excuse for racist or sexist behavior. -L

Haha, I’m curious as to what’ll appear on Misha Collins’ part. Most especially on Tom Hiddleston’s. May I ask when you plan to put out their’s, or is there really no specific plan as to it yet? Thanks! 

Thus far we only have one thing on Hiddleston and nothing on Collins, so I don’t know when a post on them will be made. If anyone has receipts they’d like to send us, that would certainly help the process along.

-Ry

• fucknodansavage
• “Divorced parents, gay dad, the HIV bombshell… and now, so suddenly, a woman. That’s an awful lot for a high-school-age kid, especially a boy, to deal with. The tr***y activists are going to jump down my throat for this, but… it seems to me that your ex could’ve put off the sex change until after his son was out of high school. One of the things parents are supposed to do is make sacrifices, big and small, for the sake of their children. And while I think people have a right to do pretty much as they please (and parents are people), I also believe that children have a right to some stability and constancy from the adults in their lives. Perhaps I’m a transphobic bigot, but I honestly think waiting a measly 36 months to cut your dick is a sacrifice any father should be willing to make for his 15-year-old son. Call me old-fashioned. […] When your son is an adult, he’ll hopefully be able to forgive his dad/mom/whatever for his selfish decision to run off and have a sex-change operation”
• Repeated use of the T word
• “Paradoxically, RAGE, going down on a sh**ale escort shores up your heterosexual bona fides. Gay guys don’t frequent and/or fellate sh**ale escorts (on purpose or by accident); getting with sh**ales is an entirely straight-male pursuit. So you can go right on identifying as straight, RAGE. Of course you aren’t totally straight—try thinking of yourself as something more than straight, not less—but you’re close enough that you can round yourself down to straight with a clear conscience. (Offer void the day you start blowing h**ale escorts.)”
• Jokes that Rob McKenna is FtM Transgender
• “Oh, and folks who want me to apologize for this: Okay, I will—after we raise at least 2K for Juin and his family. Otherwise, meh, I’ll just keep hating on trans people like the raging anti-trans beegoat that I am.”
• On Trans* Activists “It’s about a tiny sort of batshit wing of the movement blowing its stack and wanting to be the victimy-est victims in the room by claiming to be victimized by their allies. It’s a stupid waste of time.”
• Answer to a trans man when he asked if Savage thought his relationship with another trans man was doomed “Yes.”
• “If I’m the enemy of trans people everywhere, trans people everywhere could use more enemies like me.”
• “Sorry, but avoiding bi guys is a good rule of thumb for gay men looking for long-term relationships. Outside of San Francisco’s alternate-universe bisexual community, there aren’t many bi guys who want or wind up in long-term, same-sex relationships — monogamous or not”
• “I’m not saying bi guys are bad people, or they don’t make great one-night stands. Bushes, bathhouses, and sleazy gay bars are crawling with bi guys. But if a guy wants more, he’ll have an easier time getting it from another gay man.”
• “Judging from my mail, Andrew, when a gay guy or a straight girl gets involved with a bi guy, someone always winds up getting hurt. And guess what? It’s rarely the bi guy. So while I wish the rules and the risks were the same for everyone, it seems that in this instance they’re not.”
• “No, there are definitely some people who should fool around with bisexual men: OTHER BISEXUAL MEN! Jesus Christ, bisexuals — if straights and gays treat you unfairly, then why not turn to each other for love and comfort? Judging from my mail of late, there’s an unlimited supply of easily offended, extremely verbose, highly ethical bisexuals out there looking for love. Fuck each other!”
• “Get yourself a refillable Xanax prescription, or get yourself an actual lesbian girlfriend.”
• “I meet someone who’s 19-years-old who tells me he’s bisexual and I’m like, ‘Yeah, right, I doubt it. I tell them come back when you’re like 29 and we’ll see.’”
• “I don’t berate bi-identified teenage boys, I don’t tell them they’re not really bi, and I don’t cruise around bi neighborhoods looking for young bi guys to beat up. But I do know that a bi-identified 36-year-old is likelier to be bisexual than a bi-identified 16-year-old, and I resent being asked to pretend not to know it.”
• “The other problems and truths that upset the bisexual community when we talk about them are that most — the overwhelming majority of bisexuals wind up in opposite sex relationships.”
• “And here’s another thing that is: Most adult bisexuals, for whatever reason, wind up in opposite-sex relationships. And most comfortably disappear into presumed heterosexuality.”
• Dan Savage on the Existence of Bisexuality
• “Bisexuals: You Need to Come Out to Your Friends and Spouses - Now”
• “I do find some bisexuals scary, particularly the ones who are always accusing me of being bi-phobic.”
• “Bisexuals need to recognize that their being closeted is a huge contributing factor to the hostility they face.”
• “I’m sorry, bisexual activists, but you’re doing it all wrong. Instead of berating me for my alleged bi-phobia—and if I’m the enemy, you’re in real trouble—berate your closeted compatriots. If they all came out tomorrow, you could put an end to bi-phobia, take over the LGBT movement, and kick my ass out of it.”
• ““I’m too unstable in the coming-out process to date someone who’s also just coming out” is a baby-d**e variation on “I’m just not ready for a relationship right now.””
• Called Gay Conservative group GOProud “House F****ts”
• “I appreciate the feedback, Stephanie, and I’m sorry I offended you. But… um… I couldn’t help but think, as I read your letter, that your boyfriend is either a fool or a f*g. But if it works for you guys—if a romantic relationship devoid of sexual attraction and activity works for you guys—then it works for you guys. Who am I to argue with success?”
• “With all the minimally sexuals out there making normally sexuals miserable, NSNA, it should be obvious to all regular readers that there’s not exactly a shortage of people who aren’t interested in sex. With that being the case, why would you even contemplate inflicting yourself on a normally sexual person? Why not go find another minimally sexual person? You’ll be doing your minimally sexual self a favor, you’ll be doing your future minimally sexual partner a favor, and you’ll be doing all normally sexual persons everywhere a favor by removing two minimals—you and your future partner—from the dating pool.”
• Thinks that aces marching in pride parade is funny because they’re fighting for the right to do nothing
• “At a certain point, endless Tumblr-enabled debates about sexual identity, gender identity, sexual orientation, and sexual interests take on the flavor of those how-many-angels-can-dance-on-the-head-of-a-pin debates that obsessed theologians in the Middle Ages.”
• Explanation of why Savage’s “It Gets Better” campaign is problematic
• “There the guy was, boned for you, and he was brave enough to put his desires out there, to make himself vulnerable (which is what the ladies are always saying they want, right?), and you lobbed the ol’ “What?!” bomb at him and made him feel like a freak. Is it any wonder that he quickly moved on to “other things” and, one would hope, better sex partners?”
• “I’m extremely sorry that you were raped, DRARS, although your baseless accusations of rape make me doubt you when you claim to be a survivor of rape. The feminist bloggers are going to accuse me of thought crimes: If a woman says she was raped then, by God, she was raped. (Tell it to the lacrosse team.) But if my reaction to your letter is a thought crime, I can only plead entrapment: I wouldn’t have had these illegal thoughts if you hadn’t sent me such a stupid letter in the first place. […] Finally, DRARS, I hereby withdraw my consent for you to read Savage Love. If you continue to read my column against my will, well, we all know what word to apply to your actions.”
• “I’m sorry that you were sexually assaulted—that’s awful, PTSD, and I hope you went to the police and I hope you’re pressing charges. But I also hope you know that being the victim of sexual assault is not a Get Out of Being a Human Being Free card. Just because you’ve been victimized doesn’t mean you operate in an alternate moral universe where you’re not obligated to take other people’s feelings into consideration—particularly the feelings of people you profess to love and happen to be married to. Your first priority in the wake of your assault had to be your own physical and emotional safety, of course, but your behavior toward your husband is both cruel and selfish. If you truly loved your husband and valued your marriage, PTSD, you would’ve put the boyfriend on hold and gotten your ass into therapy without having to be told. It looks to me like you want out of this marriage. But instead of taking responsibility for wanting out, you’re playing the victim card while slamming both hands down on your marriage’s self-destruct button. To sum up, PTSD: You’re being a total shit. Do you love your husband? Is your marriage a priority? Then start acting like it: Cut the boyfriend off—for the indefinite future—and get your ass onto a counselor’s couch. If you’re not willing to do those things, PTSD, then stop emotionally assaulting your husband and put both your marriage and him out of their misery.”
• “The problem, ILMSSL wrote, “[is] when I try to touch her in her sleep, she whimpers, turns away, and otherwise makes herself inaccessible,” which has left ILMSSL unable to “take the liberties that she has okayed.” In other words, DRARS, ILMSSL hasn’t been able to have sex with his sleeping wife—with her consent—because she unconsciously pulls away from him, and he stops. And this man is a rapist? As for my one word of advice: I’d be willing to pop a sleeping pill now and then to keep my boyfriend happy, so why not Ambien?”
• Blamed a victim for being stuck in an abusive relationship and questioned the legitimacy o her rape allegation
• This misogynistic tweet

• “I do know this, though: I’m done pretending that the handful of racist gay white men out there—and they’re out there, and I think they’re scum—are a bigger problem for African Americans, gay and straight, than the huge numbers of homophobic African Americans are for gay Americans, whatever their color.”
• “I don’t say this to place blame! African American and Latino voters only helped to pass Prop 8! But it’s ultimately the gays who are to blame for Prop 8! It was something we did! Or didn’t do! Either way, we’re to blame for Prop 8! Totes our fault!”
• “I’m searching for some exit poll data from California. I’ll eat my shorts if gay and lesbian voters went for McCain at anything approaching the rate that black voters went for Prop 8.”
• “First off, LARDASS, you neglected to include a sign-off, forcing me to create one for you. I tried to create one that captured the spirit and tone of your letter, and I think I did pretty well. […]  I am thoroughly annoyed at having my tame statements of fact—being heavy is a health risk; rolls of exposed flesh are unsightly—characterized as “hate speech.” ”
• Blog post on “banning fat marriage” in Iowa
• “Still, you hear that anorexics believe they’re fat, and that they walk around thinking that everyone that looks at them thinks they’re fat. But what if every person an anorexic walked past said, “Jesus, you’re skinny! Eat something!” Or, “Can I get you a sandwich?” Would that help? Would it hurt? Have no effect at all?”
• Ableist rendition of The Miracle Worker, featuring Helen Keller as the daughter of a drag queen.
• The pink placard above the stage of Miracle! “The play you are about to see is deeply offensive to the Deaf-Blind community. Do not tell them about it. Keep your hands shut.”
  
• Wants To Curb Sex ‘Schizophrenia’ On TV
• “I’m going to turn over a new leaf, TROS, and make a conscious, conscientious effort to break myself of the bad habit of using the word “r***rd.” But I don’t think the “r***rd jar” is for me. Instead, I’m going to use a substitution for the word. From now on, instead of saying “r***rd” or “that’s so r***rd,” I’m going to say “leotard” and “that’s so leotarded.” I won’t be mocking the mentally challenged, just the physically gifted. I will pick on the strong—and the limber—and not the weak.”
• “HIV [prevention campaigns] are fatally compromised, terribly conflicted. They seems designed, first and foremost, to avoid making the already HIV+ guys feel bad about being positive. That fear—that this, that, or the other HIV education campaign might stigmatize having HIV and hurt the feelings of guys who have HIV — is paralyzing and it leads to neutered, ineffective, flaccid campaigns.”

It’s great that you’re no longer using ‘native’ as a noun.  Is there a reason you don’t acknowledge your own racist language? And instead just edit to erase it?

I just edited because I wasn’t the one who originally wrote that particular post. After I corrected the post I deleted the message out of habit. I’m sorry for that, I should have acknowledged the mistake publicly.

Furthermore, even though I didn’t write the post I should have caught the problem myself. I understand that the phrasing was problematic and I’m sorry to those we’ve offended or hurt :( 

I’ll be careful not to let this happen again,

-Ry